On Habits & Understanding Why A Thing Is
Chesterton's Fence in Brief
Why Do Rules Exist in the First Place?
Ever wonder why a rule is in place? A lot of times, they seem so arbitrary, as if someone just made it up as they went along. But if you dig a little deeper, you might realize that many of the rules, regulations, and guidance exist because someone tried something a certain way and met with a bad end.
The point is: don’t immediately disregard a fence without understanding the reason for its existence.
The Human Drive to Push Boundaries
Humans are known for our inquisitive and often rebellious nature. That’s not always a bad thing. Oftentimes, we won’t know the limits of a thing until we test it out.
I remember a person I once knew who used to talk about people who disdained vicarious experiences. He’d say they didn’t believe sugar was sweet until they tasted it.
We can learn from both doing and watching. Both are valuable, but discernment is key. Some risks aren’t worth taking, and knowing the difference takes wisdom.
The Role of Habits: Helpers or Hindrances?
Habits shape our lives in ways we often underestimate. The good ones create stability, discipline, and momentum. The bad ones quietly erode health, trust, and focus.
As Shane Parrish puts it: “We can address the underlying need and eliminate the habit entirely, or we can replace the habit with a better (or less harmful one).”
The danger? Falling into what I call “bad replacement theology.” Swapping cigarettes for sweets, for example, isn’t necessarily an upgrade. Habits need thoughtful substitution, not just reactionary swaps.
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
At the end of the day, none of us wins the battle with habits or fences alone. Getting help, accountability, and perspective isn’t a weakness. It’s wisdom.
So, whether you’re deciding whether to climb over a fence, tear it down, or reshape a habit, pause long enough to ask:
Why is this fence here?
What’s the risk if I ignore it?
What’s the wiser path forward?
Choose wisely, and don’t be afraid to ask for support along the way.
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